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“Its not only the desire for wealth and position that debases and subjugates, but also the desire for peace, leisure, travel and learning. It doesnt matter what the external thing is, the value we place on it subjugates us to another … where our heart is set, there our impediment lies.”

– Epictetus, Discourses, 4.4.1-2; 15 (from The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman).

Ryan Holiday asks “surely Epictetus is not saying that peace and travel are bad, is he?” No, he explains. But ceaseless, ardent desire is filled with “potential complications”.

I am reminded of a verse in Bible that money is not the root of all evil. The love of money is.

When we pine for something, we set ourselves for disappointment. We can lose our self control in response.

Authors suggest that a good goal, like “love or a noble cause” can set you up just as well.

My self reflection: this verse jumps out at me and helps explain something Im going through, have been going through, esp with manipulative family members.

Coaching question of the day

Are you in control of your desires, or are they in control of you?

Truth will set you free.

I used to think that being authentic means being honest, about the way things are, the way I feel about an issue.

In “The practice of Adaptive Leadership”, Jeff Lawrence points out ” there is no such thing as a dysfunctional organisation, because every organisation is perfectly aligned to achieve the results it currently gets.”

Any social system is the way it is, because people (esp important people) in that system want it that way. “No one who tries to name or address the dysfunction will be popular.”

As a coach, if you take on the task of pointing out flawed thinking or any gaps thinking you are “authentic”, “truthful”, being ethical and doing someone a favour, dont be shocked when you do not receive an applause for identifying a gap between the professed value and current reality.

Adaptive change is a risk.

Authors advise that a change coach/consultant focus on “how to mobilise and sustain people through the period of risk.”

I found this statement so simple and profound.

Coaching question of the day

Is there a broken system you see? Whats better left unsaid? Are you prepared to speak only when your words are worthy of being heard? (The Daily Stoic)